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Comment on You Blocked Me on Facebook, Now You’re Going to Die by Fran W.

Fran W. — Sun, 13 Apr 2014 01:19:10 +0000

This sort of thing continues to amaze, frustrate, and discourage me as a teacher of ten to twelve year olds. I see parents who justify all sorts of mean, crude and sometimes violent behavior as acceptable social behavior. I try so hard to be a positive model for my kids but they are inundated with filth and vulgarity at every turn. So sad. I don’t know what is to become of us.

Comment on You Blocked Me on Facebook, Now You’re Going to Die by admin

admin — Sun, 13 Apr 2014 00:08:51 +0000

Thanks for your reply and question. I think you’ve answered your own question when you said “most pop songs have inappropriate words”. As a concerned parent I get a sense that you want your sons to value and respect women and themselves. If popular music is teaching them to degrade women and themselves then yes, you have answered your own question, you probably should block pop music, but it goes further than that. The problem I see for most parents is that this type of guidance is time consuming and down right exhausting. Many parents opt for the quick fix by blocking kids from things which ultimately makes them seem more attractive and desirable to them so they will relentlessly pursue them. The best approach I’ve found is to sit with your children and discuss the values that are promoted in these songs and how negative they are and open up a dialog about the kind of values you want them to learn and why. Then make an agreement with them that you will help them find songs to listen to that are in line with the values you want them to hear about. We have to remember as parents that when we engage with our children in this way we are doing a number of things: one we are valuing our children which makes them feel valuable, two we are teaching them what is important in life, three we are teaching them that we are not the police but rather guides to help them learn to think for themselves, and four we are investing in them, their lives and their futures.

Comment on You Blocked Me on Facebook, Now You’re Going to Die by admin

admin — Sat, 12 Apr 2014 23:52:04 +0000

I loved the article as it really struck a chord with me. I share your concern. One pop song my kids like was watched on you tube by them and I found men and women gyrating their pelvis all over the place …. I’ve banned that particular song from being watched on you tube. But most pop songs have inappropriate words as well as actions. My son who is 6 – is going around singing songs about sexy ladies etc, passion in his pants …. it drives me insane. What do I do? Ban all pop music?

Comment on What are we Teaching our Little Boys? by Betty E.

Betty E. — Thu, 13 Mar 2014 10:05:43 +0000

Excellent article…many valid observations…..Where are the fathers of our children? Many are absent and are not providing role models…Has our society accepted that fathers are irrelevant?…We can’t blame only the men….Young mothers are not demanding marriage before having children….We should ALL set higher standard for ourselves….